It Already Happened
I am finally back from my eurotrip! As fond as I am of the people and places I had the opportunity to visit, I feel right back at home under the sun. When I stepped off the plane, I didn’t turn my phone on for 2 days.
My electronics feel like pithy objects in my life. Ironically, I am blogging- But it was refreshing to be disconnected for a little while. I felt much more connected with myself, and I have needed that experience for quite some time.
Taking a step back, I was able to see life from a different perspective. I learned so much about how I live it. In all honesty, I tend to make situations unnecessarily complicated. Making your life simple is the most simplistic thing to do, but we make it difficult for ourselves. Being pessimistic about life’s disappointments gets you no where.
The thing is, the face of every stage will change. Bread that would have made a delicious sandwich turns to mold over time. The person you confided in years ago and consider to be a best friend may have changed and may not be a person who could understand what you need to express anymore.
While these changes can be viewed as tragedies, I have found it important to appreciate the here and now. You can’t change the past. When it comes down to it, you are okay, as am I. It may not be the “okay” you expected, but that doesn’t mean it is any less wonderful.
When I was in Europe, I ran into a few frightening situations, and while I could carry that loss of control with me, I feel empowered knowing that IT ALREADY HAPPENED. I got through it and it got me to where I am today. Why complicate the present with the past? If we do, we can’t really live in the moment.
Upon my return, I realized that everything that is so different really hasn’t changed. I wrote a friend, who has been having relationship issues, and that is my sore spot. But I believe that I gave her good advice and I would like to share it with you. Here it goes:
“You’ll be in love till you’re not. And when you realize you aren’t and you are holding to an excess of desire- that will be the saddest day.
It will be they day it becomes a bit harder to take out the trash. But that is also the day you find the subliminally colorful you. Then you can find someone to hold your breath when life gets heavy and skip beats across your heart till it sends ripples to your toes.
In the meantime, remember, you will reach the balcony only by taking one step at a time. One after another. Once in a while, you’ll hit the next floor- a plateau. But more stairs spiral around the corner, you just have to carry the endurance to want to find them.
The most existential of people cannot find the simplicity in making their own lives more simple. All your memories, the good and the bad, have already happened. Detach your mind from the non-existent because it is not worth dwelling on.
I wish someone had told me that two years ago. It took me that long. I’m sure they did and I listened but didn’t really hear what they had to say.
Everything I just wrote, I learned in Europe. That is how I have grown. But I didn’t need to fly over a big lake to figure it out. All of the answers I found in myself.”
If you relate to this, you may listen to some good tunes to help you along. This is my playlist for you.
King of Anything- Sara Barellies
Done Stealin’- Carolina Liar
Not Even Human- Angel Taylor
Going North- Missy Higgins
Hemorrhage- Fuel
Simple- Katy Perry
Blue Suitcase- Erin McCarley
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